Self-sabotage along the way

If self-sabotage were a sport, I would be an MVP.🏆

Do you constantly find yourself sabotaging your success?

I do.

And I am not alone.

It’s a problem that affects almost everyone — and it can be tough to recognize, let alone fix.

Believe me… I am still trying on the fixing part.

Like most people, you don’t want to admit that you have a problem with self-sabotage or even talk about it.

I’m sure you’ve heard this phrase before: “You’re only as sick as your secrets.”

It’s true. The more we hide our problems, and the less we talk about them, the worse they get. And we don’t even realize that we worsen things.

𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝘀𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘁𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝘂𝗿𝘁𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗼𝗻 𝗽𝘂𝗿𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗲. 𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗰𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝘂𝗿𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘇𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘂𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗹 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝘁𝗼𝗼 𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲.

I am admitting I have a problem.

I am self-sabotaging myself.

You don’t want to believe that deep down inside, you want to fail.

𝗜 𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁. 𝗪𝗵𝘆 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗜 𝗱𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝘆𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳?

But it’s true: we do that to ourselves because we subconsciously want to avoid success.

We sabotage ourselves to keep from being happy or from being successful.

Sometimes this is because of past experiences or events that taught us what happens when we succeed; other times, it’s just because of an unconscious bias that if we’re successful and happy, something terrible will happen.

Reflecting now, I have been doing this for the past four years.
And at one point, it was so bad I didn’t want to leave the house.

Whatever the reason may be (𝘔𝘪𝘯𝘦? 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵. 𝘉𝘶𝘵 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘢), it’s essential to understand why we do this so that we can start working towards overcoming those fears or issues and achieving what we truly desire.

My self-sabotage includes:
• procrastination
• anxiety before meetings
• rescheduling appointments — last minute
• not showing on appointments
• missing the deadline
• not actively working on my pipeline
• and a few others.

Nice collection.
Did I leave anything out?

So how does one stop sabotaging oneself?

❌𝗪𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘁.

I am still working on that. 🛠 No tips here.

But the first thing is to acknowledge this behaviour. This far, I know.

𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼 𝗲𝗮𝘀𝘆 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲!

There is no magic pill or quick-fix solution for overcoming this issue; there are only small steps towards progress.

I guess I might be wrong; the key to success is just a simple action plan, some accountability buddies along the way and speaking about it.

𝗪𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗯𝗲 𝗺𝘆 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗯𝘂𝗱𝗱𝘆?

Any good tips or resources to help me along the way?